Friday, January 23, 2015

What am I passionate about?

I went to a lunch presentation the other day about leaving law and becoming an entrepreneur.  As a hard worker, being my own boss and starting something has it's appeal.  I think I could be successful if I really put my mind to it.  When I started my nursery art business over 5 years ago, it took off before I knew what was happening.  That being said, my Husband is a business owner, and I see how much work it is.  I am not naive enough to think you just get to work when you want and success will come.  So for this point in my life, a job with semi-regular hours and healthy insurance is a good fit.

All that aside, the speaker was very interesting and I am always interested to hear people's stories of how they got started, why the left their $$ career, etc.  One thing she did mention that struck a cord with me was how fulfilled she feels now in her new venture, even if she is super busy with her start up company.  She talked about her previous career in Big Law and how she felt like she was not being a good Mom, good wife or good lawyer.  Although she had everything she had dreamed of, she just didn't feel fulfilled.  She wasn't passionate about what she was doing.

So on the way home yesterday I started thinking about what I could do that I was really passionate about.  And I cam to the conclusion that I am not really passionate about anything.  I came up with a whole list of things that I like to do, but nothing I am really passionate about that gets me fired up.

-I like to read parenting books and articles and try the latest child-rearing techniques out, in an attempt to have my only child not turn out like the stereotypical only child
-I like to bargain shop and thrift (when I have time)
-I like to mix high and low, as in an entire thrifted outfit mixed with my LV Neverfull
-I like to share my psychotic levels of research on non-important topics such as lunchboxes for my pre-schooler, which I can do via this blog
-I like to think about decorating, working out and trying new makeup, but I rarely execute these things
-I like to craft and paint, when I have time, which is never
-I like to write random blog posts about how I am feeling, which probably matter to no one and I should just start a journal instead of spewing randomness on the internet

Basically, I feel like I am not passionate about very much.  Which kind of made me sad, I mean, aren't people supposed to have something they love doing, besides hanging out with their family, going to work, and making cocktails?

And then I started to think that was ridiculous.  I think this "let's feel passionate about something and you should only do what you love" bullshit is a new-age generational thing.  I mean, think about your grandparents and parents.  They probably didn't or don't LOVE their jobs, but it was what they did.  They worked hard to provide for their family, send their kids to college, take an occasional vacation and maybe leave them some $ when they died.  I think it is kind of unrealistic to think that we are all going to be out there working in careers that we totally love, are passionate about, and fulfill us.

My job fills out all the check boxes that you would want.  Nice people, interesting work, decent working schedule, decent income, and benefits.  Which my self-employed Husband does not have.  Would I like to find something I am passionate about?  Yes.  Do I think I need a hobby and some more friends?  Yes.  But who has time for that?  Maybe a passion is something I can develop after Hadley goes to college?

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Recent Lunches and Dinners

We are all back on the healthy eating train over at our house, so I have been trying to put more effort into getting H a variety of foods.

mixed fruit + cheese + hummus + turkey + crackers

greek yogurt + left over cinnamon roll treat + ravioli

chicken enchiladas + fritos and snap peas + applesauce

And for dinner:

homemade pizza + applesauce + peas

homemade chicken noodle soup + grilled cheese + apples

breakfast for dinner: turkey sausage and eggs + toast + fruit

salmon + pizza toast + salad

tomato soup + grilled cheese + berries

Friday, January 16, 2015

Random on Friday

-I finally figured out how to download Podcasts and happily listened to the first episode of Serial on the way home and to work.  I feel like a technology genius.  Which is funny, because I work with computers and software everyday at work, but in my personal life I am pretty low tech and can't seem to be bothered with simple things like updating phone software or a DVR.

-Having a threenager is just the best!  Insert sarcasm here.  Really though, H has days where I think she is a terrible child and I want to binge order parenting books from Amazon.  And then she has three straight days of perfect mornings, no crying ever, and excellent listening skills.  Which makes the not-good-listener-days even more frustrating because I know she is capable.

-Speaking of her listening, I posted on a BabyCenter message board I belong to about my morning routine struggle with getting her out the door sometimes.  People had all kinds of suggestions, the most popular was getting your kid dressed in their school clothes the night before and having them sleep in them.  Do people really do this?  I guess my problems with fixing her hair are small in comparison to what other's struggle with, so I am not as bad off as I thought.

-Have you ever tried to take an outfit selfie?  The kind all the outfit bloggers I follow post on Instagram?  Do these people have monkey arms?  Or maybe a selfie stick?  I tried it so I could send a pic of a possible outfit to a friend and it looked ridiculous.

-Speaking of selfies, I heard a new term the other day in regards to posting on social media - the wealfie.  Basically it's a selfie or a picture designed to show of your wealth.  I thought it was hilarious, and I have several people in my feed that are totally guilty of this.

-The Husband had a minor surgery yesterday that turned into something a little more complicated while they were in there.  He is fine but will recover a little more slowly than anticipated.  H also chose last night to have her first bad dream.  So this Mama is a little tired today!  And not exactly looking forward to taking care of 2 kids this weekend :)

And if you need a laugh and haven't already seen this floating around Facebook, you must check out the hilarious captions on It's Like The Know Us

Wednesday, January 7, 2015


my healthy lunches the other week: lemon pepper turkey, sweet potato and green beans

dinner: chili (with ragu added to take down the spice) grapes and fritos

dinner: refried beans, trader joe's chicken taco, strawberries and quac

lunch of chicken quesadillas, rice cakes, apples and grapes

dinner of black beans, grapes, quac, shrimp and cheese quesadilla

Monday, January 5, 2015

Perfect Life & Social Media

I had a conversation with a friend the other day about another girl from high school we both know.  HS girl is always posting pictures of her two kids playing nicely, or reading to each other, or otherwise occupying themselves on a cold winter day.  Her life seems very low-key and not stressful.  But HS girl remarked to someone the other day how her life is chaos and everyone else on social media seems to have it together.

Social media is a funny thing, people sharing snap shots of the best moment of their lives.  Its not really realistic and if you pay too much attention, can cause a serious case of life/wardrobe/kid/vacation envy.

I personally think social media is interesting, I enjoy keeping up with friends, seeing what people are into, and generally spying.  I like it for the same reasons I like watching My Five Wives or any show on Bravo, I find people and their choices and lifestyles to be fascinating.

Every once in awhile someone will comment to me how my blog makes my kid seem perfect.  That we eat organic food, and she never gets in trouble.  While H is pretty well behaved and a fairly good eater, I can assure you she is not perfect.  And my intention is never to make it seem like we are perfect.  Did she sit through the entire showing of Annie at the theater the other day with minimal snacks and no potty break?  Yes.  Did she slap me across the face after I gave her a small spanking the other week?  Yes.  My girl is very mature for her age, but she sure is strong-willed.  Which works well most of the time, and will server her well later in life.  But it presents a challenge when she is told "no."

Does she eat kale and quinoa and brussel sprouts all the time?  No.  There are plenty of nights when The Husband and I are having something she doesn't like or thinks is too spicy and I don't feel like dumbing down the recipe for her, so she has chicken nuggets. 

organic nuggets, low sugar ketchup and peaches in water.  healthy crap food.

I guess my point is, not everything is as it appears on social media.  That friend with an amazing new house and the wardrobe?  You might be surprised to know about her credit card debt.  And I personally sleep much better at night knowing I am saving for my kid's college, not splurging on shoes.  So if you aren't already, make it a point in 2015 to be on social media less, and be in the moment more.  The people in your life will notice, and I bet you will feel better about your own life.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Our Holiday in Pictures

Our holiday in pictures - in reverse order because that is how they uploaded!

making bead necklaces with Dad in Mimi's kitchen

photobooth fun at Clint & Ashley's wedding

relaxing with Dad on the couch

side-by-side of B & H's Santa pictures

at the zoo with Mimi & Poppy

surprise face at the Sophia show

Me and H at the Sophia show, a Christmas gift from Mimi & Poppy

Monday, December 29, 2014

Round Up of Forward Facing Bookshelves

My favorite corner of H's room is her book nook.  I loved reading as a kid, and still do when I have time.  So fostering a love of reading in her was important to me.  We read at least three books every night in our glider, and thanks to her former-english-teacher grandma, we have a ton of books.

When we were designing her room, I knew I wanted forward facing shelves.  But most of the ones I found were a little too expensive, or not the right size for our small corner.  I found a tutorial online and my Dad built her three shelves that we hung them at a height she could reach.

We've had ours for several years, and as it goes with most things in my life, there are a lot more choice on the market now than when I was looking for them.  That always seems to happen to me, I want something, can't find it, so I settle.  Then poof, a year later it is everywhere!

Here is a round up of some of my favorite options for forward facing book displays:

 from my nursery, made using tutorial from Centsational Girl

via here and shelves from

ikea spice rack display